Single Ladies Lament
People say there are more single women than men here; perhaps it's just that the men want to stay single and the women don't.
"It's like Fleet Week for the guys every week here, I swear," says a 33-year-old woman I know. Let's call her The Catch. Single, successful, and head-turning pretty, she says guys have a distinct advantage on the Santa Barbara dating scene. "There's a never-ending supply of cute college girls who are not looking for longterm relationships."
A frequent maid of honor at her friends' weddings, The Catch dated a guy for four years before facing the fact that they were incompatible. As she reentered the dating world, her friends were all saying "I do."
"I feel like I missed the get-married boat," she says. She dates guys she meets through friends, at bars, or on Match.com. "I feel like Charlotte from Sex and the City when she said, 'I've been dating since I was 15! I'm exhausted. Where is he?' You reach the point where you just want that companionship, someone to share with. You want 'your person.'"
Her person is smart, funny, considerate, and passionate about his own hobbies. Here's who he's not: the guy who recently asked her out, offering to take her either to happy hour or to a restaurant where he had a coupon for the pasta special — provided that she only order the pasta special.
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